“Us” vs. “Them” – The Affirmation Spot for Thursday June 14, 2012

There is a dangerous virus that pervades many minds on this planet. It is s0 woven into the fabric of our conditioning that many don’t even recognize it in themselves. The assumption that “We’re right” and “They’re wrong” is a given to many people on this planet. There are the true believers who believe that their race, religion, political affiliation, nation, ethnic group, or point of view are unquestionably superior.

This virus is ancient and it is persistent. Do you remember this scene from 2001: A Space Odyssey? How different are many of our actions today from this primitive display?

Then there are many who fall into this mindset simply from conditioning of one kind or another. They come not see its bias and to assume it is perfectly natural. There are also those otherwise happy, positive people who, because of some traumatic or horrific event, have found justification for giving another group globalized characteristics. There are some who just flat believe humanity cannot change.

To me, this mindset limits us, keeps us in perpetual cycles of fear and violence. We feel justified, even righteous in shouting down or shooting down “Them”. I don’t pretend that this post is going to change all of this. My goal is to simply make you reflect on the degree to which you subscribe to an “Us” vs. “Them” mindset in your life.

These are a combination of Tweets from the past few years and some new thoughts as well. May we all continue to grow and transform this mindset in our lives.

  1. When the labels start, the critical thinking has stopped.
  2. Those who live in a world of “Us” vs. “Them” never contemplate that they are someone else’s “Them”.
  3. How arbitrary and fate-driven are the things that divide us. How conscious and choice-driven are the things that unite us.
  4. There is no greater impediment to the world we seek than the refrain, “But they…”.
  5. The tribe says, “Pick a side”. The wise say, “Been there. Tried that.”
  6. As long as your mind is divided into “Us” and “Them”, your world will be too!
  7. Those who divide the world into “Us” vs. “Them” miss the point. It always “Us” vs. “Us”
  8. Leaders who use “Us” vs. “Them” to secure their power deserve neither leadership, nor power.
  9. Hatred is a fire and its first victim is the hater.
  10. “Us” and “Them” are tyranny’s two favorite constituencies.
  11. “Us” vs. “Them” is a fear-centered world. A fear-centered world disempowers all of us.
  12. “They started it!” Two-year-olds in the sandbox or the mantra of world leaders in the “Us” vs. “Them” paradigm?
  13. The borders in our minds and the borders in our world are built of fears.
  14. Labels are toxic mental residue masquerading as critical thinking.
  15. There is no difference between a fundamentalist “Us” and a fundamentalist “Them”.
  16. “Us” vs. “Them” is a dead end mindset…literally.
  17. Whatever anger rules, anger destroys.
  18. Every time you think of the world in terms of “Us” vs. “Them”, you are empowering the dividers.
  19. Who you are born is fate. Who they are born is fate. Who we become is a choice.
  20. Many a king has kept “Us” together by creating a frightening “Them”.
  21. Those who divide the world into “Good Us” and “Evil Them”, must always avoid looking into mirrors.
  22. “Tastes Great” vs. “Less Filling” politics only conditions the mind of the people, robbing them of half their right to vote.
  23. The divisions we grow in our minds are the divisions we find in our world.
  24. We label what we refuse to understand.
  25. We live on a tiny blue ball in a great black vastness. How do we manage to convert that into division, rather than togetherness?
  26. In the mindset of “Us” vs. “Them”, peace is impossible and war is inevitable.
  27. But for fate, “They” would be “Us” and “We” would be “Them”.
  28. Every dogma that you hold, holds you. Every grudge that you hold, holds you.
  29. When you look for evil in others, you find it. When you look for goodness in others, you find it. That change is not in them. That change is in you.
  30. Labels are mental blocks that stifle discussion and critical thought, beginning in the mind and continuing out into the world.
  31. Open your mind to “Their” perspective. Walk a mile in the “Their” shoes. Read something you don’t agree with.
  32. Focus on seeing the “Us” in “Them” and the “Them” in “Us”. Soon you forget who is who.
  33. The unconscious superstructure underlying “Us” vs. “Them” is that I am part of “Us”. That, by default, makes “Us” right and “Them” wrong.
  34. As long as there are borders in our minds, there will be borders on our maps.
  35. See the world as “Us” and “Them and it is. See the world as We and it is.
  36. In the mindset of “Us” vs. “Them”, their evil justifies ours.
  37. Never was a greater money maker devised than war. Never was a simpler trigger for war devised than “Us” vs. “Them”.
  38. Every division on this planet is human-made and can be human-unmade.
  39. Let us transform fear into love and division into common purpose.
  40. Let us come out from behind our masks; come out from behind our labels; and live in peace as human beings.
  41. Let us create a world where fearing each other is ridiculous and loving each other is as expected as the next breath.
  42. Let us create a world where the adjective we are all most proud of is human being.
  43. Let us create a world where we love each other for our commonalities, rather than despising each other for our differences.
  44. Let us create a world where kindness is seen as a strength and violence is seen as a failure.
  45. Let us create a world where living in peace is as expected as the next breath.
  46. Let us get beyond our petty differences and move on to life’s bigger questions.
  47. Let us create a world where respecting our differences is as expected as the next breath.
  48. Let us each listen to our own heart and to the collective heart; both of which are calling us to greater things.
  49. Let us be quicker to love and slower to judge.
  50. Let each of us commit our lives to mending fences, rather than building walls.
  51. Let us live according to our hopes for each other, rather than our fears of each other.
  52. Let us remember the commonality of our human predicament and the things that connect us rather than those that divide us.

Follow your bliss. Experience your bliss. Become your bliss.

Ray

Extraorindary Thinker or Ordinary Thinker? – The Affirmation Spot for Friday May 16, 2012

We all have choices in life. One important choice is to decide if you are going to be an ordinary thinker or an extraordinary thinker. What’s the difference?

Man and Dog Running on Cannon Beach, Oregon. (Click to see larger image)

  1. Ordinary thinkers are fear-driven. Extraordinary thinkers are love-driven.
  2. Ordinary thinkers believe they are victims of fate. Extraordinary thinkers know they are choosers of destiny.
  3. Ordinary thinkers approve the status quo. Extraordinary thinkers improve the status quo.
  4. Ordinary thinkers strive to be cool. Extraordinary thinkers strive to be themselves.
  5. Ordinary thinkers are tenant farmers in the paradigms provided by others. Extraordinary thinkers are constantly planting new and exciting paradigms in their lives and in the world.
  6. Ordinary thinkers trust experts. Extraordinary thinkers listen to experts, but trust themselves.
  7. Faced with adversity, ordinary thinkers give up. Faced with adversity, extraordinary thinkers give more.
  8. Ordinary thinkers expect little and receive it. Extraordinary thinkers expect much and receive it.
  9. Ordinary thinkers employ labels. Extraordinary thinkers seek understanding.
  10. Ordinary thinkers believe in chances. Extraordinary thinkers believe in choices.
  11. Ordinary thinkers think life happens to them. Extraordinary thinkers know life happens through them.
  12. Ordinary thinkers allow their doubts to rule them. Extraordinary thinkers allow their dreams to rule them.
  13. Ordinary thinkers believe one setback can stop everything. Extraordinary thinkers know one great idea can change everything.
  14. Ordinary thinkers conceive the world as “Us” vs. “Them”. Extraordinary thinkers see only we.
  15. Ordinary thinkers are comforted by easy answers. Extraordinary thinkers dare hard questions.
  16. Ordinary thinkers conform to the tribe. Extraordinary thinkers transform the tribe.

Let us all commit to extraordinary thinking today. Ordinary thinkers become extraordinary thinkers every day. Why not you? The hero you’re waiting for is waiting for you in the mirror.

Stay inspired!

Ray

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The Affirmation Spot Affirmations for Friday May 4, 2012

It’s Friday! I hope you feel a sense of completion, as this week pushes to completion. Here are some affirmations to power you home today.

Ray’s Thought for the Day:
There are three unstoppable forces in our world – the rising Sun, a rushing wave, and a determined mind.

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Today’s Affirmations

  1. Change Affirmation: Beginning today, what serves me stays and what fails me goes!
  2. Self Affirmation: Being who I am is a blessing and a rush. There’s no one else I’d rather be!
  3. Confidence Affirmation: Big things happen for me when I get my small thinking out of the way!
  4. Business Affirmation: I am flawlessly executing my business plan and I am succeeding brilliantly.
  5. Relationship Affirmation: Today I am on a direct collision course with my soulmate. Love is on the way for me!

Stay inspired! You are the engine of your dreams!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams. He is author of the ebook The Power to Be You and the forthcoming The Power to Be You 2: 1001 Power Thoughts for Daily Life.

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Poem: Psychology of Seasons – The Affirmation Spot for Friday October 7, 2011

Today’s Affirmation:

The Universe provides for me in direct proportion to my gratitude! Today I am rich!

My dog Mia and I just went for an amazing walk on this beautiful early Autumn afternoon. We still have Indian Summer going here right now with temperatures in the 80s, but the shift in season is still clear. Everywhere you look leaves, walnuts, hedge apples are strewn across the ground. With every gust of wind, you can hear more of summer’s fruit and life falling to the ground in death. The squirrels are hyperactive right now gathering the ground’s bounty for the winter they instinctively know is ahead. Seasonal changes represent more than climatic transition. They also alter our psychology.

Our ancestors truly recognized and appreciated the meaning of the seasons. They celebrated and revered the cycles of the seasons.

The life that comes to be in the Spring and flourishes in Summer begins to dwindle in the Fall. Today’s post is a poem I wrote in 1993. I hope it captures the magic and meaning of the transition to Fall.

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Psychology of Seasons

A sun-drenched sky
on windy autumn day;
out across open fields
passing clouds make shadow play.

Silent beauty in multi-hues,
but ominous in a sense;
for though today be delightful
darkness soon gains precedence.

Shortly days will end too soon
as the leaves of autumn blow.
The gods withhold their aid
to the lifeforms down below.

A chill permeates the air
and death is all around.
Evidenced by dying trees:
their leaves spread on the ground.

Depression need not be our course;
all things must come to pass.
Death is an integral part of life;
perennial as fields of grass.

For very soon rebirth takes place
and all springs back to life.
To our hearts the glow returns,
bringing end to stress and strife.

Given time we come to find
and perhaps appreciate
the coming of darkness and death
who’s end gives cause to celebrate.

Copyright Ray Davis 1993, 1997

Follow your bliss! Experience your bliss! Become your bliss!

Ray

Ray Davis is the Founder of The Affirmation Spot and focuses on empowering minds to think positively, achieve goals, and live dreams. He is author of the ebook The Power to Be You and the forthcoming The Power to Be You 2: 1001 Power Thoughts for Daily Life.

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Myths to Be Dispelled in 2011 – I: The Affirmation Spot for Thursday December 30, 2010

Today’s Affirmation:

As I uncover the big lies in my life and in my world, my big truths set me free!

If we are to transform ourselves or transform our world, we must be willing to let go of some myths. We must be willing, not only, to release the myths but also speak the truth. Over the first few weeks of 2011, I’m going to be sharing some myths that I believe we must address. Love to hear your comments and thoughts.

Myth: Our leaders consistently tell us we have a security deficit. Their prescription is perpetual war, the end of privacy, and mistrust of each other.

Truth: We have a humanity deficit. We must wage radical peace, support freedom over repression, and trust each other more than ever.

Many will read this and the first words out of their mouths will be…..”But they…”. “But they…” has become an excuse for not working on ourselves – an excuse we can no longer afford. There are those, perhaps in the Pentagon and in caves in Pakistan, who are saying right now, “You can’t reason with these people. They only understand one thing.”

As I said, a humanity deficit. When we don’t address humanity deficits they become security deficits. The answer? We must start calling the problem what it really is. Then, and only then, can we hope to solve it. Our humanity, not scanners, walls, and wars, is the solution.

Stay inspired!

Ray

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